Monday, September 18, 2017

Building things that last for eternity

I taught a class on Sunday on the topic "Building things that last for eternity". It centered on Brigham Young's vision for the SLC Temple, but I didn't want to focus there too much because I was really captured by that idea of building for eternity.

Do we spend our time building things that last?

Our families, our marriages, our own lives. These are the things that last.

I told them about my Mom. Just as the early saints planted the right footings for the Temple, strong and immovable, so my Mom planted our foundation. She took us to Church in conditions that were sad. She told us we'd serve missions. She drove us to Seminary. She told us stories from the Scriptures. Was it more than that? If so I don't recall. But that was enough.

I concluded by holding up the program and asking: what does it take to send someone on a mission? How many hours? How many people? How much encouragement? How many invitations?

But these are the things that last forever, and they are hard won but important.

Sunday, July 2, 2017

A new verse to 'Follow the Prophet'

Joseph was a prophet,
But first he was a boy.
He had a great question:
Which church should I join?

Joseph was sincere,
He sought a grove of trees.
He received his answer
Down upon his knees.

Maddie's Money

Here are some of the Facebook comments about Maddie's summer business: 

I would probably pay her MORE for something like this! She's AMAZING!

First of all, she needs to raise her prices or else I need to move closer to you guys. Secondly, like a true marketer she says the kitchen cleaning is complimentary and then charges for it.

She's undercharging for her services! I would pay a premium for someone who would fold my laundry!!!

We want all services but I think any package should be about 50$ 

Can I hire her for copy writing??

Good job Maddie!

Wow! This is amazing and her rates are so reasonable! I wish she was closer and I would sign up for all of the services! I'm definitely showing this to Campbell to see if she's willing to learn from your enterprising daughter!

I'd pay her just to write

"This complimentary package costs $2.50" -- truth in advertising!

 skip harvard business school. go straight to P &G senior management.

Fantastic!! Amazing prices too, she can come live with me!!

Umm I'd hire her

That shows she's the daughter of a world class marketer

If she's for real, I'll pay her $15 to make me 3 sandwiches mon, Tues and weds next week. Just 1 a dsy.

So awesome! Love her style! Thanks for sharing this!

Amazing!

She will corner the market!

Hi friend--been meaning to write to you and tell you that I was blown away by Maddie's Maddie Money sales pitch. C'mon--you helped her, right? It's SO good. Concise, engaging, clearly states the value prop, beautifully organized and consistent, utterly adorable and very competitively priced! Hugely impressed. She's a better copywriter than most of the people here with that title. Seriously, excellent work!

Flashback tonight

Tonight I had a bit of a flashback to trying to sleep during the summers of my youth. Our house had air conditioning in the living room only, and the upstairs where we all slept was always very hot in the summer. So hot that falling asleep was almost impossible some nights. I'd feel so hot and sticky just laying there in the heat. Making matters worse was the ever-present reality of mosquitoes who would sneak in through the completely non existent screens or the many holes in the screens. Just as you'd be falling asleep, the persistent 'zzzzzzzz' of the mosquitoes would jar me awake as I swatted them in the dark.

As I think about it, I feel so blessed today. Air conditioning cools my house. Fans blow gentle breezes on us as we sleep. There is nary a bug in the entire house.

But, on the other hand...it would be special to go back for a minute. To have my brother sleeping in the other side of the room. My Mom in the next door with my sisters. Brothers sleeping further down the hall or downstairs. The family together. Just for a night.

Monday, May 29, 2017

Reminiscing about the summers of my childhood

With summer upon us I wanted to reflect on the summers of my childhood. Sadly, most of the memories are gone like those ancient summer days, but a few things remain.

One thing that occurs to me is that Mom used to have us boys take on a massive summer long project, partially to do something constructive, mostly to keep us occupied on something other than Atari and TV. The two that stand out were a summer of scrapping the paint off the house, and another of weeding the world's largest garden of weeds.

The scrapping project somewhat made sense: the house was old and made of wood and the paint that was there needed to come off before a fresh coat could be applied. What didn't make sense was the way we went about it, which is that Mom bought a few hand-held scrapping tools by which we were to attack this project. No chemical thinner, no heater to warm the paint to make it easier to remove. Just metal on wood for an entire summer. It was straight out of the Karate Kid. Scrap off, scrap off. That wood held onto the paint like a tight-fisted miser, and removing it was nearly impossible. What was more possible was removing sheets and chunks of wood. And sadly - to the detriment of the entire house - that was what happened more than once. Scrap off, scrap off. So, the Kennedy boys spent the better part of that summer removing chunks of wood and paint from what was in reality the world's saddest house.

The second project that I remember Mom throwing us into was to weed the garden. First things first: I think the plot of land affectionately called a 'garden' was once a garden, I mean one year it was a garden. Every year after that it became less and less of a garden and more and more of a forest. A forest of weeds and trees. Weeds that grew as tall as a grown man, with trunks as thick as an arm. Prickly and wild, these weeds were not looking to give up their plot of land and they gave the Kennedys a real run for their money. For the summer that year we attacked those weeds with everything we had. I think we made some dents, but by the next summer those weeds had come back with a vengeance never to give up their place again. We learned two important lessons that summer. One, it's easier to tend the garden when the weeds are little and can be attacked with minimal effort. Two, none of us ever wanted to be a farmer.

Maddie calls her hands...

Paws. What more can I say?

Saturday, April 8, 2017

God's Response to a Question

A few weeks ago I had a recruiter reach out with an interesting job - one that would've stretched me but that would've been good for my career. So I followed my own advice and agreed to talk to the recruiter. But preparing for the interview was a bit stressful, and I had a ton of anxiety around it.

As I prayed one night as the interview drew nearer I was asking God for help...and I kept asking and asking. As I did I kept having these insights come into my mind...one after another I heard ideas that I could use in the interview. I kept asking. Distinctly I felt a prompting say: I'm giving you answers, why aren't you writing them down? So I jumped up and went into my office to take notes. The ideas kept flowing, and I kept writing. As a result of this I felt way more prepared for this interview and started feeling prepared.

Interestingly, the next day the recruiter contacted me again and let me know they had made an offer to another candidate and that I wouldn't be interviewing for this role.

Some might wonder: why did God give me answers when the interview would be cancelled in a few hours. Why would he even say anything, knowing it would soon be cancelled?

I think God is there when we need him, even if we only think we need him.

In that moment I needed God. Even though I didn't actually need it, I needed Him then and there. So he was there. It's comforting to know that he will be with us if we pray sincerely for help.

Sunday, January 29, 2017

My question to God

I've been thinking about asking God a simple question:

If I gave you my life, what would you do with it?

This is an important question. The answer is equally important. I think in everyone's life we need to consciously or unconsciously pose this question and take action on the answer.

My personal hesitation is that I'm fearful of the response, and equally fearful of my ability to do as he wants. So it fundamentally comes down to: Am I willing to act on it?

This much I know: God can do more with my life than I could ever dream of myself. I think of the quote by C.S. Lewis where he says:

“Imagine yourself as a living house. God comes in to rebuild that house. At first, perhaps, you can understand what He is doing. He is getting the drains right and stopping the leaks in the roof and so on; you knew that those jobs needed doing and so you are not surprised. But presently He starts knocking the house about in a way that hurts abominably and does not seem to make any sense. What on earth is He up to? The explanation is that He is building quite a different house from the one you thought of - throwing out a new wing here, putting on an extra floor there, running up towers, making courtyards. You thought you were being made into a decent little cottage: but He is building a palace. He intends to come and live in it Himself.”


His vision for us is so much grander and fuller than we could ever imagine. But it takes a willingness to submit that will to him. To lay our lives on the alter and let him make of us what he will. Maybe this is the only question that really matters. 

I hope to have the courage to ask and act.

Sunday, January 15, 2017

Grateful for groceries

Yesterday while shopping for the family I head over to our local Smiths. While wandering the store for items, a few thoughts and memories stirred me.

The first thought sent me back 3.5 decades to Michigan. I recall my Mom bringing us with her to Meijers for grocery shopping. I recall her parking in the back of Meijers where there were fewer people, then heading in to load the cart with food supplies to feed the eight of us. I remember a sense of dread and uneasiness as we'd approach the cashier. Mom would first unload the essentials, and begin asking the cashier to give us a total. As the total drew nearer to the amount of money she had, she would begin adding or taking things out so as not to go over the actual amount of money she had in her hand or bank account. It seemed a few times (or many, just a sense of "oftenness") that her check would be rejected and we'd have to pay a different way or or walk away. I'm grateful for a Mom who would endure a lifetime of humiliation for her family. Who would stare it straight in the eyes day after day. And today, I'm even more grateful that I can walk into any store, with a need for almost anything, and buy it if I need it. I'm almost embarrassed that my Mom had it so poorly, and I have it so nicely. I hope to never forget what my mom endured for us. I also hope to never forget where I came from, and where I've come - all thanks to a loving Heavenly Father who has taken my humble family and made us better.

The second thought was this: I'm so grateful to live in this country, at this time, with this level of peace and prosperity. While walking through that store I tried almost to see it as someone from another country might: full to the brim with the freshest foods, the greatest variety, the most quantity. Everything at my fingertips, and at a very good price. I felt guilty - I who have so much, and others, who have so little. It doesn't seem fair, and it makes me nervous to know what God expects of me versus those who have so little. But, in that moment all that I felt was a genuine sense of awe and gratitude. I hope that's a good start.

Sunday, January 8, 2017

Another year, another class to teach

I'm excited to begin teaching a new group of Sunday School kids this year, including my very own Abby! I've been deeply blessed by the opportunity to teach great kids over the years and am finding that I both like it and seem to be good at it. In fact, this Christmas one of my coolest students ever, Johnny J., dropped off a present and a little note. In it he simply said, "To Tim, for being the best teacher the Mormons have ever seen." It made my day to know that my efforts were appreciated and that I was making a difference. When I look across the different things I could be doing in Church, I'm very glad that I am able to teach the youth and hope that continues for a very long time.

New Year

Happy 2017.

Happy to report I accomplished a few key goals this last year that I look forward to building on.

First, I got into pretty good shape. My max bench is 215, squat 250, dead lift 275. I'm running a 9 min mile and am stronger and healthier than I've been in a while. This was accomplished by working on 4-5x/week and generally eating healthier. This year I want to really understand how food affects me and work on generally eating cleaner, more consciously.

Second, I taught at the U as an adjunct professor. I built the course, marketing to businesses, from scratch and delivered a great class. At the end the students were so complimentary. Most came up and expressed their appreciation and sentiment that it was one of, if not the best class they had at the U. They encouraged me to continue to teach and share my experience, which I will gladly do in the future.

Third, I developed a bit more of a consulting practice and worked for 470, an ERP Technology Cloud company, and Priority Dispatch. Not major dough, but it's nice to have something additional coming in and building a bit of an additional practice.

We traveled pretty extensively, going to Orlando, Disneyland, Seattle, and Hawaii (twice, the Big Island and Maui).

Here's a little about the family. 

Maddie had a great year. She is a leader in school - she was selected to visit the Mayor of Kaysville as one of a few students in all of 5th grade. She had two great seasons of soccer where she played hard defense and scored some great goals. She was chosen to be a special needs helper at school on account of her kindness and leadership. She and I had a great trip together to Disneyland for the annual Halloween party - she was the cutest Belle there, and I was the her tag-along beast. She helped find $200 this year - once on the streets in Anaheim where she saw and pointed out a $100 bill, the second time with Gigi on the streets of Layton as a gift card. She's played basketball and is a great developing athlete. She is the nanny to three cute babies (Fayth, Millie, and Evelyn) who she cares for every day. Most of her Christmas present this year was baby supplies to help with these little cuties. She's a better nanny to them than most people would be to actual kids. She is a bright light in our life and helps us stay young and fresh and funny.

Favorite song: Feed the birds frosted flakes (Makena Beach early morning snorkeling)
Favorite book:
Best job: Teacher
Best friend: Alexis
Favorite movie: Moana
Funniest moment: Jordyn the turtle (Maddie made a sand turtle in Maui and within 20 mins her head was smashed. Since, Maddie has been paying tribute to her legacy)
Favorite moment: Playing ping pong and getting smoked by Maddie's crazy serve
Worst moment: Overall, great year.
What I learned: Social media, the fun of Instagram, Animal Jam (AJ), Family House
Favorite apps: Family House, AJ, Instagram, FaceTime
Favorite subject in school: Math
Friend group at school: Kerri, Brinlee, Kaydance, Chloe, Presley, Bryker, Ashley, Mae

Abby had an impressive year. One of her best moments was going to Montreal with Mom...it rained the whole time, but they loved the shopping and spending time in old graveyards. She's excelled in school - she's got a rocking 4.0 and is especially good in French and Math. One of the things that Abby is really good about is getting ahead of things. For instance, she did a leaf project in school and got ahead of it and killed it. Abby liked golf and tennis lessons this year. She was student of the month in October. What really stands out to me though is the social excitement...friends, boys, etc. Abby is really coming into her own and finally in Utah has a fun group of kids who are sweet, cute, loyal, and fun. She met a special boy named Noah who is a fun, kind, thoughtful boy. She's not quite ready to call him a boyfriend, but they definitely like each other...alot.

Favorite song: Cheap Thrills
Favorite book: Great Expectations
Best friend: Lexa
Favorite movie: Moana
Favorite moment: For me, teaching her to drive and playing modern warfare
Favorite apps: Texting, Facetime, Instagram
Worst moment: Spraining her knee skiing at Snow Basin
What I learned: Snowing
Teen moment: Girl Scout Camp
Abby's friend group at school is: Makayla, Michael, Addy, Zach, Noah, etc.

Mom had a good year, for the most part. She continues to work at MarketStar, but doesn't take it too seriously thankfully. The last part of the year Mom's been prepping for the bar and that's been nothing  but painful for her. The good news is she killed the professional responsibility part of the Bar and is prepping hard for the real deal in Feb. Mom has been running primary as the secretary and does a good job generally providing not just management, but also guidance of how to best support the primary kids. Mom spends a lot of time keeping the house running, i.e. doing carpool, driving the girls to sewing and piano, cooking, and generally doing an amazing job of keeping us well fed and happy. She continues to love to walk, and took up jogging later in the year.

Favorite song: She won't commit
Best friend: She won't commit
Favorite movie: Moana
Favorite moment: She won't commit
Favorite apps: She won't commit
Worst moment: She won't commit
What I learned: She won't commit